A Tough-Love Letter Template for the Changing Tides

Look–I’m a process girl. I believe in being with every shade of emotion that’s out there, and letting the “bad” ones live for as long as they need. But sometimes, they’ve lived their lifecycle, and it’s time for a change. The dog days need to be over. Your funk has rotted. It’s time to compost it, let it grow into something new.

You know it’s time to find a way to move on when your stories, longings, resentments or fears sound so played out that you want to throw your brain out the window so you don’t have to hear yourself say, “I guess this will eventually pass.” ONE. MORE. TIME.

Eventually has arrived.

If you’re reading this thinking… I don’t think it’s time yet, head HERE for some encouragement around tenderness.

But if you know it’s time to move on, here’s a template for the ready-spirit.

Dear [Your Name],

This is a tough love letter. I’m only writing it because I believe in you and your deepest health and happiness so fully, and I know, plain and simple, you could use a kick in the ass right now.

The truth is, the time for ______ is over. No more dragging your feet. It’s time for ______. Like really.

Yes, ______ and ______ were important because ______, but now, you’re ready for ______.

So if you want it, get serious about the shit that’s in the way.

If you want to feel ______ you’re going to have to stop ______. Plain and fucking simple. Instead, ______.
If you want ______ quit ______ already! Start ______.
If you want ______ then stop ______. ______, instead.

[Repeat variations of the above sentences as many times as needed. With as many “come on all-fucking-ready”s as feels sincere.]

You CAN ______.
You can also ______.
And in case those fall through, you can always ______.
Whatever it takes for ______. Because it’s fucking time. You can’t ______ anymore. You just CAN’T.

If you keep going down that old road of ______, ______, and ______, you’ll probably end up ______.

The truth is, you’re meant for ______!!!!

Own your part in this process. DO your part. You’ve waited long enough. You’ve paid your dues. It’s time. It’s simply time.

I dare you to ______.

Crazy love & steadfast belief,
Your inner tough-love mama




To moving on when the time has come. And doing it with spunky love.



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