The healing arts are exploding. Comin’ atcha at an accelerating pace. And with good reason. There’s a lot of healing to do these days, from the way we treat each other, to the way we treat ourselves, to the way we walk the earth. We’re in great need of honor, devotion, respect, sacred sight.
AND… there’s a whole lotta self-proclaimed teachers, gurus, awakened masters, etc. out there.
Warning to the wise: be careful who you follow.
In the words of David Whyte:
Give up all other worlds
except the one to which you belong.
Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet confinement of your aloneness
anything or anyone
that does not bring you alive
is too small for you.
So… A very heartfelt PSA:
MARYTRDOM IS NOT AWAKENING!
You can choose what feels life AFFIRMING.
Do you hear me??
There’s the oh-shit-this-is-terrifying-
And then there’s the alarm bells, red flags, weary hunches… ‘Ehhhhh…I’m not so sure about this.’
I don’t care who’s opening the door to red flag zone.
(Guru, parent, lover, guilty-conscience, fear that you can’t choose the high road and survive).
It’s not enlightenment to walk through that door. It’s betrayal of your life force.
DON’T DO IT.
You need your life force to follow your joy, serve the world, embody radiant health.
You need it & we need you to have it.
‘Cause the world’s got plenty’a people sleepwalking, perpetuating habits of asleep-ness.
For those of us on a path to true & deep healing, remember:
Martyrdom is not awakening. It’s not healing. It’s not helpful.
According to the good-old Merriam-Webster dictionary:
Martyrdom: 1 :the suffering of death on account of adherence to a cause and especially to one’s religious faith; 2 : affliction, torture.
You don’t have to actually die to inflict small-deaths to your life force.
If you’re working with a healer who does not have your bottom line of safety in mind, they are not a healer.
They’re a narcissist.
Real healing and effective healers remind you of your true nature. (Note: best friend? lover? family? All meant to be healers in your life. Act accordingly.)
You are LIFE.
You are ALIVENESS.
You are POWER.
You are CHOICE.
Even in grief and loss and sorrow, even in illness and heartbreak and appropriate rage–if you are waking up & you are healing, it will feel ENLIVENING.
It will not feel like a black hole vortex of forgetfulness and grasping.
It will not feel like putting your power, your authority or your truth in someone else’s hands.
That’s martyrdom paired with manipulation.
That’s dangerous. That is not awakening.
Watch your energy.
Follow the openings. Follow what feels empowering & joyful. Follow your expansion.
That’s waking up. That’s love. That’s light work.
The rest is professional bullshit.